Situationships: A Modern Relationship Trap Disguised as Freedom
Having left a relationship of over 20 years, I must admit — the dating landscape today looks very different, and honestly, a little frightening. The more I read, the more I find myself faced with concepts that are surprisingly complex… and, quite frankly, a little depressing. It’s not just about love anymore. It’s about strategy, emotional detachment, blurred lines, and a kind of calculated distance that didn’t seem so common before.
In the age of endless swiping, emotional detachment, and non-committal dating culture, a new type of connection has become increasingly common — and increasingly confusing. It’s not a friendship. It’s not a relationship. It’s somewhere in between. Or at least, that’s what people like to tell themselves.
They call it a situationship.
At first, it even seems practical. Two people spending time together, enjoying each other’s company, without the pressure of a label. No expectations, no drama. But this so-called freedom often comes at a cost — one that’s rarely discussed openly.
Personally, I hold a more conservative view when it comes to relationships. And honestly, I find it hard to understand why anyone would willingly accept this kind of situation.
You start by telling yourself you’re fine with keeping things casual. You convince yourself it’s modern, that you don’t want to force anything, that “we’re just going with the flow.” But at some point, the absence of definition stops feeling liberating and starts to feel disorienting.
You don’t know where you stand. You don’t know if you can ask questions or demand explanations. You don’t know if you’re the only one they’re seeing. And because there was never an official agreement, you feel like you don’t have the right to expect anything — not even basic clarity.
That’s the real issue with situationships: they remove responsibility while still demanding emotional investment.
People enjoy the comfort of companionship, physical intimacy, and support — without committing to the work and intention that a real relationship requires. It’s easy to maintain appearances. Text frequently. Spend weekends together. Even meet friends or family. All without ever using the word “relationship.”
And for the person who wants more but doesn’t speak up, the silence becomes heavy. They keep waiting for things to naturally progress. But without a shared understanding, there’s no progression — only repetition. The situationship stays stuck in a loop: not bad enough to leave, not good enough to grow.
In many cases, these dynamics persist because of one-sided hope. One person assumes things will eventually “evolve.” The other person, meanwhile, has exactly what they want — access without accountability.
It’s not necessarily manipulation. Sometimes, both parties are unclear about what they want. But when someone benefits from keeping the relationship undefined, they’re unlikely to push for change.
That’s why people in situationships often report feeling emotionally exhausted. Not because of constant fighting or betrayal, but because of uncertainty. They feel invisible in a space where they show up consistently but aren’t fully seen. They feel disposable in something that once felt special. And they feel guilty for wanting more — as if clarity and commitment were unreasonable demands.
This isn’t a call to turn every connection into a relationship. Not everyone is looking for that — and that’s okay. But clarity is never out of style. Transparency, honesty, and respect for each other’s emotional time are basic requirements for any form of adult connection.
If you’re in a situationship and feel unsettled, it’s not because you’re needy. It’s because your emotional needs are valid, and they’re not being met. It’s not a matter of being too sensitive — it’s a matter of alignment. If one person wants more and the other avoids the conversation, the imbalance will only grow.
Situationships are common, but they’re not neutral. They shape your expectations, your sense of worth, and your ability to trust. They can distort your understanding of what healthy connection looks like — especially if you stay in one for too long.
So if something consistently feels unclear, uncertain, or emotionally one-sided, it’s not a phase — it’s a pattern. And patterns don’t change unless someone makes a conscious choice to change them.
You’re allowed to want clarity. You’re allowed to want something that’s mutual, intentional, and solid. Wanting a real connection doesn’t make you outdated — it means you value your time and your emotional energy.
At the end of the day, if someone truly wants to be with you, they won’t keep you guessing.
Because being available isn’t the same as being present.
And staying connected doesn’t mean they’re committed.
Know the difference.
And don’t be afraid to walk away from what doesn’t feel right — no matter how much potential it once had. 
This week has been pure bliss. I rested, stretched, enjoyed some relaxing fitness classes, and took real steps to improve my health. 
I’ve been a good girl — so today, Saturday, I more than deserve my Me Time! 
I’m going to watch The Dark Knight. A Batman movie!
I’ve NEVER found this superhero special… I mean — he has NO superpowers! What kind of superhero is that?! 
Well, tonight I’ll find out! 
To bless this movie debut (in my living room 
), I’m having a glass of Martini Extra Dry — a great low carb choice for a little cheat day treat! 
Bye-bye! 
